There is a pain that lingers beyond the funeral, beyond the cards and calls, beyond what others expect. It is the grief that walks with you through ordinary days, long after the world has moved on. Time keeps ticking, but your heart feels frozen. People ask, “Are you better yet?” And you wonder, “Why does this still hurt so much?”
This week, we acknowledge the sacred tension between grief and time. Healing does not always follow a schedule, and God is not in a hurry to rush what He intends to restore deeply.
Time Doesn’t Heal—God Does
There’s a common phrase: “Time heals all wounds.”
But truthfully, time alone is not the healer—God is.
Left unattended, time can harden pain rather than soften it.
But when time is spent in God’s presence, when each moment is entrusted to the hands of the Healer, time becomes a vessel for transformation.
Psalm 90:4 reminds us, “For a thousand years in thy sight are but as yesterday when it is past…”
God exists outside of our timelines. He is not rushing you. He is walking with you.
The Pressure to Move On
The world operates in urgency.
There is an expectation to bounce back, smile again, function as usual.
But grief is not a deadline—it is a process.
Even Jesus, after the death of Lazarus, did not rush into resurrection. He wept. He waited. He entered the pain before reversing it.
If the Son of God could linger in sorrow, you are allowed to do the same.
Ecclesiastes 3:4 says, “A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”
This means your mourning has a place, and your tears are not a delay—they are a divine rhythm.
Grief Moves at the Pace of Love
The depth of your grief reveals the depth of your love.
You are not weak because you’re still hurting—you are human, and more importantly, you are beloved.
Healing is not linear.
You may have good days followed by waves of sorrow.
You may feel strong one moment and undone the next.
That’s not regression—that’s reality.
Grief is not something to “get over.” It is something to walk through—with grace.
When Time Feels Like an Enemy
Sometimes, grief makes time feel cruel.
Holidays come and the loved one is still gone.
Anniversaries pass, and memories stab with new sharpness.
The days move forward, but your soul wants to stay where it last felt whole.
But Isaiah 60:22 says, “I the LORD will hasten it in his time.”
This is the assurance: When the time is right—not rushed—God will bring healing, comfort, and clarity.
His timing is not delayed—it is deliberate.
Selah Moment: Trusting Time to God
Pause and ask:
Am I putting pressure on myself to heal too fast? Who have I compared my grief journey to? Can I trust God with the pace of my pain?
You are not falling behind.
You are being gently led by the One who knows every step, every tear, and every sacred pause.
Scripture Meditation This Week:
“But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years…” (2 Peter 3:8 KJV)
“He hath made every thing beautiful in his time…” (Ecclesiastes 3:11 KJV)
“Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him…” (Psalm 37:7 KJV)
Prayer for the Grieving Heart in Time:
Father, I thank You because I know You hear me. Let Your will be done.
You see how long I’ve been hurting.
You know the moments when I question why I’m not better yet.
Today I release my timeline to You.
I trust You not only with my healing—but with the when of my healing.
Teach me patience in the process.
Help me not to rush what You are using to restore.
Wrap me in Your peace when I feel behind, and show me that I am right where I need to be—in Your care.
In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Closing Reflection:
Time is not your enemy—it is the space where God is faithfully working.
You don’t have to hurry.
You don’t have to perform healing.
You only have to stay close to the One who redeems every moment.
Let time unfold. Let your soul breathe.
And let grace meet you in every delay.
Selah Moment with Dr. Althea Winifred
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